Dearly cherished, our company is gathered right here today to cope with this thing labeled as⦠a period finale! Yes, it really is genuine, the event signifies the conclusion absolutely the smash hit which was S2 of
Hold Off, So Is This A Romantic Date?
In order to commemorate that ending, which preferable to come-on and talk about the joys and positive results of a long distance crush, than star and queer person Elise Bauman? You might identify Elise from life’s wonderful queer Christmas rom-com which come on this past year,
In Xmas Tree
,
but around these areas, this lady has another concept this is certainly nearly as vaunted: Drew’s gf! Yes, that’s right, this gleaming twosome ended up being birthed from fantastic queer tradition: the cross country crush.
Exactly what would it be concerning the long-distance crush which very appealing to queers internationally? Is it the general scarceness of like-minded queers near you? possibly the capability to flirt cross country requires a few of the stress down? The 3 people enter into all of it, AND Drew and Elise show some perhaps as well sexy details about their unique union!
As well as there clearly was a game title! Recently, I make Drew have fun with the game that merely took over Twitter and Tiktok for a few momentary weeks: „They can be a 10 but⦔ It really is a very good time, all around!
SHOW NOTES
+ Practice Elise on
Twitter
and
IG
!
+
Study Drew’s meeting with Jinx Monsoon
!
+ Watch
Bend it Like Beckham
,
it however rocks!
+ Johnny Sibilly’s thighs are⦠indeed very compelling!
+ will most likely Shortz is definitely title of this NYT Crossword publisher!
*the more you know*
EPISODE
Elise
: immediately after which we got off the phone, then both of us hopped regarding phone two mere seconds later we are like, „Therefore, the edge is shut, the audience is legally not allowed to truly get throughout the edge.”
Christina
: after all, leading among certainly one of the best sound memos and even texts i obtained from Drew, i can not bear in mind which kind it came in, it had been love, „we made this plan of action now the edges are shut.” Yeah.
Elise
: Yeah, it had been a real moment.
[theme tune plays]
Drew
: Hi, I’m Drew.
Christina
: And That I’m Christina.
Drew
: And this is
Hold Off, Is This A Date?
Christina
:
Wait, So Is This A Romantic Date?
is actually an Autostraddle podcast brought to you by me personally obtaining the giggles, therefore the concern that will be on everybody’s mouth, hold off, was this a date?
Drew
: We’re at the end of our next period, and I also believe we resolved it, i do believe.
Christina
: Yeah, i do believe I’m just delivering huge finale fuel, like whenever comedies had previously been before a studio audience, and every person would walk-in so there ended up being an hour of applause given that it was actually like, it’s the finally, that is the way I’m experiencing. Though to get clear, no one features applauded myself but, hateful. Thank you, thank you so much. Today I believe liked and used. Drew, who are you?
Drew
: Oh wow, forgot about that part.
Christina
: Yeah, right?
Drew:
Perhaps period three we’ll obtain the intros. I am Drew Gregory, i’m an author for Autostraddle, a filmmaker, a queer trans woman. You know what, In my opinion whenever we perform another period i do want to have a fun one I throw in by the end.
Christina
: Ooh, some thing spicy, you need to jazz it?
Drew
: Yeah, There isn’t everything today however.
Christina
: Okay, keep all of them desiring a lot more, I think that’s great.
Drew
: Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Christina
: Im Christina Tucker, Im additionally an author at Autostraddle, and the net as a whole. A podcaster, a gay Ebony woman, and someone who’s experience rather flashy the following with this afternoon.
Drew
: Great, i am really happy that you’re flashy and I’m spicy, or at least i am planning for the chance that someday I’ll be spicy.
Christina
: Yes you are like, I’m not sure, initial 1 / 2 of the film Dune, the spice comes. Cool guide, girls, she is unmarried. Anyhow, I do have a casino game for people to tackle with this hollowed day of our very own finale.
Drew
: Incredible.
Christina
: This is the traditional, by traditional What I’m Saying Is a casino game that took over the internet and TikTok for a couple weeks, „They Are a 10, but⦔
Drew
: Ah, great.
Christina
: today Drew, i’ll set-out some surface guidelines for you personally, because I’m sure you love a followup question.
Drew
: Great.
Christina
: When I state they’re a 10, they’re a 10 for you in any way that really matters to you personally, that might be literally, that might be mentally, this is just an individual you think is a 10, okay?
Drew
: Okay, fine, many thanks.
Christina
: I do not have any situations for what more you within person currently doing inside internet dating life, you’re just probably have to go along with your instinct and determine.
Drew
: Cool.
Christina
: All right?
Drew
: Yes.
Christina
: We’re going to place in which make that obvious, right here we get. They may be a 10, however they clap once the jet countries.
Drew
: i usually felt like everyone was also remarkable with this, where it is like they are a 10 which thing means they are go to a two, come-on.
Christina
: Yes.
Drew
: and so i’m going to nonetheless provide a fairly ample eight.
Christina
: Yeah, I think that’s fair. I do believe eight could be the correct quantity of cringe treatment for the small activity. Okay, this is certainly a good start. Okay, they truly are a nine but they never text you first.
Drew
: and I also can’t ask follow up concerns?
Christina
: No, no, no.
Drew
: and so i cannot ask, really do they content myself back when we text? I would personally state a five.
Christina
: Yeah, maybe not texting first ever, that is rough.
Drew
: actually is unusual.
Christina
: that is harsh material. Okay, they’re a five but they drive you to every errand you have ever endured to perform.
Drew
: That’s very nice, but I could always⦠If there had been five, we’ll give him a six.
Christina
: Sure, sure. But i am aware you love an unicamente jaunt anyway, you adore an errand run.
Drew
:i am talking about today my personal sweetheart Elise did drive me to an errand, and I also was actually really thankful, however if that has been the single thing she did we mightn’t take a connection, that was simply an additional bit good bonus.
Christina
: i do believe that is fair.
Drew
: Yeah.
Christina
: okay, these are generally a seven but they just pretend to read through your projects.
Drew
: look at element of that that bothers me could be the pretend.
Christina
: Pretending, we understood it would be.
Drew
: It’s not the not reading it. As long as they didn’t study could work it really is like, I’m not that, I’d end up being just a little, it’s like never ever? But it’s fine, I could overcome it. Nonetheless sit to me about this is exactly what’s odd for me, in order thatshould go-down to a three.
Christina
: Yeah, correct, appropriate. These are typically a three however they gain access to the criterion wardrobe.
Drew
: And would I have that get?
Christina
: and also you get accessibility, you benefit from that accessibility, yes.
Drew
: i possibly could have a solid affair with this six.
Christina
: i believe you could potentially. It absolutely was a three, but yeah, you are knocking it to a six.
Drew
: No, no, no, that is what i am stating, i am slamming it to a six.
Christina
: Gotcha, gotcha. I favor that. They are an eight but all of their pals tend to be right.
Drew
: Okay, there seemed to be some discussion about any of it, because In my opinion there seemed to be a needed assist. I do believe I perhaps was in the reverse area of most associated with the Autostraddle team whom said that its fine to only have right pals. I would like to point out that it’s okay, it’s just not living We lead. All directly friends, that’s going to choose a two.
Christina
: Yeah, I’m going to must go along with you on that one, i’d only believe it is only a little unpleasant, confusing.
Drew
: All right buddies?
Christina
: Yeah.
Drew
: If they’re new to queerness and so are attempting to fulfill even more queer folks, that’s unique of if they’re a recognised season queer who’s love, you-know-what? I like getting the only lesbian in my own buddy number of directly individuals.
Christina
: Yeah, i might feel the same manner when it ended up being a dark individual that was actually like, „I don’t have any Black friends,” i might end up like, „what’s happening there?” Internally.
Drew
: We’re not in a system sitcom, we can’t have a token individual.
Christina
: you don’t have to function as the token, you should not do this to yourself. Fine, we’ve got three even more. They might be a seven however they spend-all their particular sparetime in the gym, constantly lifting weights up-and-down. I am not sure what individuals would in the gym.
Drew
: all their spare time. I guess it depends on what matters as sparetime. I’ll state a five.
Christina
: Yeah.
Drew
: I’ll bump them all the way down two.
Christina
: Bump them down.
Drew
: But that’s good. I suppose this will depend mostly for me, which I’m not inquiring a follow question, i am staying with five, it depends in my experience what truly matters as spare time.
Christina
: Sure.
Drew
: are we able to view motion pictures together, or head out to eat, is that time? Is not work time free-time, or perhaps is it like once we don’t have other pursuits?
Christina
: we listen to you, we hear you.
Drew
: But I’ll stick with five.
Christina
: All right. They may be six, however their mother is actually hotter than they are.
Drew
: Oh, I’m not sure to go up or down.
Christina
: i understand, correct?
Drew
: I don’t believe i possibly could previously date someone for their⦠It really is like if I’m maybe not interested in someone to begin with, i am most likely not will be dating all of them.
Christina
: Appropriate.
Drew
: I’m not gonna be like, really, they are able to turn into their particular hot mom. I do believe I would point out that they’re however a six, I’m merely attending not refer to them as and I also’m gonna phone their particular mom.
Christina
: Yeah, I feel want it’s like you remain alike, but perhaps I spend time to you some more than i’d if you wish-
Drew
: That’s an effective point.
Christina
: receive some mommy time. I do not think you change.
Drew
: i did so something truly bad that I however think defectively in regards to, which will be that someone questioned myself completely, and that ended up being as I was at college, and I was not interested, I really ended up being clear about that, I was clear I wasn’t curious. However she wished to be buddies, and I also could inform that she said she desired to end up being pals nonetheless it was via location-
Christina
: She was wishing.
Drew
: Yeah. But the thing usually all the woman buddies had been really hot and cool, and so I did always been the woman buddy to hang out together pals. I didn’t rest about my personal purposes usually, it nevertheless was not the best thing I did so as a 20 year-old.
Christina
: I mean unfortuitously it really reminds myself of this episode of
Sex therefore the City
where Carrie’s relationship, I do believe it really is Justin Theroux, in which he sucks, but his family rocks, and she actually is like, I can do that for quite. I’m like, yeah, positively, just who could not.
Drew
: Carrie wasn’t attempting to connect with his household, the difference, you know very well what? It really is fine, we’re all great.
Christina
: A hookup will appear like something, I’m always proclaiming that.
Drew
: which is an extremely great point.
Christina
: Your last one, is a three but has a beach residence.
Drew
: i am going to state a frustrating phrase, but we visited NYU.
Christina
: terrible to say.
Drew
: something which sucks about me, which this will be planning to appear to be a humble boast, because it’s in fact probably an effective fictional character characteristic, nonetheless it sucks as an individual checking out the globe. I went along to a college that’s filled up with wealthy folks who have a number of amazing coastline homes, and all these other items, and I also only became buddies with people have been indeed there on scholarships. Not merely, but largely, I undoubtedly, I didn’t socialize with individuals that has beach houses.
Christina
: You Probably Didn’t make use of.
Drew
: Yeah, I really think if they are a three but they have actually a coastline home, they are most likely a-two. The simple fact⦠I don’t know.
Christina
: Yeah, you simply can’t generate that jump to use the unwell beach house moment.
Drew
: No, it sucks. But what i am really wanting is my pals who are pretty down-to-earth, great folks, more and more ones basically browsing consistently get that new money and get beach homes, right after which i will be capable go out with my great buddies and start to become at a beach house. That is the fantasy in which i really could get the coastline house.
Christina
: That’s the fantasy at the conclusion of the afternoon, it is brand new money and a beach residence, which is all we’re looking. You heard it here 1st people.
Drew
: I love new cash.
Christina
: Love brand new money.
Drew
: Love brand-new cash. Yeah, that was a delight. I’d really, I would truly already been willing to play that video game since it ended up being a thing on TikTok, very many thanks for making my personal aspirations become a reality.
Christina
: I imagined it would be an enjoyable one to perform, and it was actually very enjoyable to come up with them.
Drew
: Well, should we move on to all of our major portion for the week, which will be dropping for people who live-in various other urban centers. In fact it is distinct from long distance relationships, because long-distance connections can begin really into a commitment, they can continue on into a connection, here is the desire that queer men and women have to check out their unique spot they reside and go, no, I’m not planning flirt using these individuals, i will continue instagram.com and discover an individual who life extremely faraway. And we have actually a, i understand we always say a really special visitor, but for me that is a very unique guest. Do you want to present your self?
Elise
: i might love to introduce me. Have always been I the unique guest?
Drew
: you’re, yes.
Christina
: kid, obviously.
Elise
: Great, wow, remarkable. I’m Elise Bauman, I’m a star, I’m a queer individual, and I’m right here now because I’m asleep with among the hosts.
Christina
: Guess which?
Elise
: Yeah, the rest of the podcast is just the audience attempting decipher which variety i am asleep with. I like that, its like a murder mystery but-
Christina
: there is no solution to understand.
Elise
: there is no solution to understand. Yeah, performs this make me personally a nepotism infant? Usually how the market really works.
Christina
: Yes, that is how industry really works, girl.
Elise
: Nice, wonderful.
Christina
: this really is it.
Elise
: Wow, possibly i possibly could get a career out of this.
Christina
: Fingers entered individually.
Elise
: Nepo child to career, wow, fantastic. I’ve constantly desired to end up being a nepo infant.
Christina
: I’m very pleased.
Drew
: Yeah, I found myself merely browsing declare that for those who don’t know, well now I am damaging the murder puzzle of it all, but Elise and I also can be found in a commitment, and performed start dating while in the pandemic, and Elise stays in Toronto, and I live in la, that are in fact different cities, and so are actually in numerous nations.
Elise
: They are certainly, these include indeed.
Christina
: And Drew, not to imply that you went against a instinct, but i really do feel as if you’re often a person who claims, why bother with a lengthy range moment? You will find individuals below I’m able to date, exactly why do this to your self? You realize it’s going to be tough, you are sure that it’s going to be a challenge, so why do this? However here you happen to be.
Drew
: See, which is interesting, because i’m like i liked having a bit of both, i simply think I didn’t take the long-distance ones possibly since really.
Christina
: Maybe that’s it, yeah.
Drew
: But I always liked a long length flirt.
Christina
: Genuine.
Drew
: therefore i think this merely held going. Once we started-
Elise
: and so the answer, Drew, was not that I found myself simply amazing and it was personal for me, and that it had been extremely certain in my opinion that I happened to be merely surprisingly enticing which means you simply out of cash all principles and you mentioned, „i must have this 1.”
Drew
: i am talking about it’s type of the clear answer in a lengthier feeling. In the same way so it just held occurring. And our very own close friends for the pod, Mal Blum and Gab Dunn, whom I always live with, as some people may already know, I would personally often be like, I would be wanting to date individuals during pandemic in l . a . while the surrounding areas of Los Angeles. And they’d create enjoyable of me because I would sometimes just be like, „I mean, I could just try to date Elise Bauman.” I was usually, „i am talking about, {this person|this i
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